"For me the rope was learning about my boundaries of intimacy and communication. I was drawn to Kinbaku by its visual aesthetic and sexuality. But quickly once I had the pleasure of tying with June, I realized the sex element had much less to do with my enthusiasm for it. It was the connection and friendship that formed with June through the rope. She made it clear to me, that even though she was doing the tying, ultimately, that I was in control. Through that control I was able to explore my boundaries while feeling vulnerable with someone I trusted"